Presuppositions of NLP
The Presuppositions of NLP:
1. The map is not the territory. People respond to their experiences, not to reality itself. They then use their words to represent this unique reality. The words also have a unique meaning to individual’s and so every person’s map is not the territory and not a universal truth but a representation of experience with so much meaning behind it. We can therefore change maps which are not reaching a chosen destination.
2. People are not their behaviours. Accept the person, change the behaviour as the behaviour is a person’s response to something in their world. NLP helps to generate more choice in behaviour and response to the world.
3. Respect for the other person’s model of the world. If we keep our story out of the way in which we listen, we can hear what the other person is representing and perceiving much better than if we stick within our own narrative. By understanding and respecting these differences instead of judging, better communication will occur.
4. Behaviour and change are to be evaluated in terms of context, and ecology. Any change must be ‘checked out’ in the specific content and is not necessarily the most helpful change across all contexts. The overall ecology of a person’s life has to be taken into account.
5. Resistance in a client is a sign of a lack of rapport. The rapport is the job of a coach to build. No client is resistant but may become inflexible if the practitioner has not built trust. If what you’re doing isn’t working, be flexible and try something different – that goes both for the coach and for the client in the world.
6. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback! Seeing results as feedback give us information for the next step and prevent becoming embroiled in a story of failure.
7. Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available. Every behaviour is motivated by a positive intention. However, NLP can generate further choices in order to provide more resources which were always there but were lying dormant.
8. Calibrate on Behaviour: People’s behaviour is the only thing we as communicators can observe and so it becomes invaluable. Watch it. Anything else is mind reading and it’s tricky to enter into someone else’s mind.
9. You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results You are the only person who can change your results and to do that it’s helpful to access the beliefs behind those results. NLP can uncover meanings which are hiding.
10. People have all the resources they need to succeed and to achieve their desired outcomes. Every person has the resources they need but they can be hiding or be locked away by unhelpful or unuseful beliefs. If you can find someone who has done something, you have all the resources to do it too. NLP uses modelling to achieve this and often models the person themselves at times when they have had success.
11. All procedures should increase wholeness. Labels and separation of situations will lead to a disconnected and incongruent result. Bring everything into a system with a united positive intention and results come quickly.
12. The meaning of communication is the response you get. Again, there is no failure but feedback. If you look behind the communication to its INTENTION, you can see why you got that response.
Choice is better than no choice.The system with the most flexibility of behaviour will control the system.Being open to alternatives will result in an ability to control the system instead of fighting for the way ‘it should be’.All procedures should be designed to increase choice.